Becoming
UnabashedlySELF Centered
Create a Life That’s Yours
— Without Guilt, Without Apology
Once upon a time, you knew who you were
You had hobbies! Interests! Even a personality.
Then Life happened, and you lost some of that.
You’ve been showing up for all of it, though - for work, for kids, for parents (sometimes all three!)
You squeeze your needs into whatever time is left, but you feel guilty for it.
And worse, what little progress you make seems to slip away as soon as Life encroaches again.
As everyone else’s needs crowd in, despair threatens you, habit takes hold, and it feels easier to just go back to being the caretaker that everyone knows and loves.
But you’re ready for something different. The era of being a “recovering caretaker” is about to begin! Now YOU get to come first!
It’s time to reclaim yourself
It’s time to put yourself at the center of your life
It’s time to become Unabashedly
SELF Centered
Build a life where you - your needs and desires - take center stage.
A life where you know what you want and allow yourself to take action towards it - small, intentional steps that build on themselves.
A life where you create lasting change, and along the way, you find support in rituals, practices and people that nurture and “get you.”
Let’s talk about this word:
UnabashedlyUnabashedly is a word that means “without embarrassment or shame; without any worry about possible criticism; without apology, embarrassment, or defensiveness”
What would it mean to own your life - to claim your truest self -
without apology?
This is how to live life
without apologyMy program, Becoming Unabashedly SELF Centered, is a deeply supported, high-touch, one-on-one coaching experience.
It’s a perfect fit for curious, kind-hearted women - the recovering caretakers - who are ready to live the gorgeous, creative life they’ve secretly longed for.
We begin by exploring your needs - together - with curiosity, gentleness, and persistence.
We figure out what aligned actions are right for you, always looking for the sweet spot that challenges but doesn’t overwhelm.
Along the way, we match you to the rituals and practices that are going to support your lasting change - including but not limited to journaling exercises, personal ritual, retreats, and more!
With me as your companion, you’ll learn how to return to this again and again - navigating guilt with ever-increasing ease, creating a life that you’re excited to live!
It’s not about burning your life to the ground,
and it’s not selfish.
It’s sacred.
The Steps to Becoming Unabashedly SELF Centered
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S = Sense and honor your needs
Sense into what you truly need. No more guilt, no more recrimination. This is where kindness and clarity begin. Here you give yourself the radical generosity of listening and saying yes to yourself.
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E = Embody intentional action
Take aligned, doable steps forward. Not big, dramatic moves—but sustainable ones, rooted in the rhythm of who you are and what you actually want. You'll become familiar with discomfort, and learn how to navigate it with ease.
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L = Lasting change you can hold onto
Anchor what's working. Build momentum with ease. Let small wins become sacred patterns that hold over time. Let the evidence of just how phenomenal you are prove that you deserve to be at the center of your life.
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F = Find your rituals, practices, and people
You're supported through meaningful rituals, nourishing practices, and a community of like-minded, like-hearted souls who truly see you. This is how you return to yourself again and again with kindness and grace.
This is for you if
you constantly feel knocked off course from what you say matters most
you’re regularly grappling with guilt and resentment, especially when you try to do things for yourself.
you’ve done the work but just can’t maintain the changes
You feel unfulfilled and sometimes even isolated - even around the people you love
What does a life with you in the center look like?
You know your wants and needs on a deep soul level and you’re comfortable taking steps towards them.
You have a collection of personalized practices and rituals to lean into that support you.
At long last, you make real progress, building on small victories that create lasting change.
Day by day, evidence builds and you learn to trust in the process and in yourself.
You realize that life is so much better when you put yourself first and feel better when choosing to put others first (because the choice is yours.)
What does coaching with me look like?
Weekly 45-minute 1:1 coaching calls (by phone, so I can access my intuition and offer intuitive hunches - always with permission.)
Each call begins with a 10-minute check-in where I listen deeply “with the ear of the hEARt,” allowing you to gather the pieces of yourself in preparation for our work.
Our co-creative process will include juicy questions and answers, honing in on the next right steps that you’ll choose.
I take a deeply personalized approach: We focus on your needs, your progress, and your unique way of honoring yourself.
Between calls, I’m just a text away (for insights, encouragement, the occasional TikTok, and shared reflections.)
Key Milestones on the Journey
Weeks 1–6: Building the Foundation – Clarity, incremental progress, personalized rituals, and establishing trust.
Week 6: Visioning Call – We meet with your Future Self for guidance, wisdom, and an expanded sense of what’s possible.
Ongoing: Deep coaching conversations, practical steps, good questions, and rituals to anchor transformation.
Story-Beads Creation – After trust and momentum are built, we co-create a set of story-beads as a tangible tool to support your journey. (Included in the 6-month package.)
A small gift from me to you - at a time TBD. (Care packages are one of my love languages; hearing and mirroring back desires is another one - expect a little something in the mail as we reach the end/renewal time of our journey together… because I see you!)
My Path to Becoming
UnabashedlySELF Centered
I’ve always been an archetypal mom, so it came as quite the surprise when postpartum depression hit and I was miserable having babies.
After my daughter was born, my mom called every day for six weeks - I found out later she feared I might hurt myself.
She wasn’t too far off. Getting in touch with my needs became a matter of life and death.
When those needs came up against cultural norms, I struggled - with guilt, with deserving, with justifying my choices.
But I remember how it felt to not get my needs met - how it felt like drowning - and I forced myself to confront the uncomfortable feelings that came with doing what I needed.
So, most days journaling took precedence over laundry and crafting came before the dishes. And when I allowed myself my practices, life ran more smoothly and what I gave, I gave with an open heart.
Through the years, as I returned again and again, I got really good at not beating myself up, at navigating the guilt quickly so I could just get back to what mattered most to me.
I’ve picked up a few things along way, and when you add that to my wide knowledge base and my expertise in spiritual practices, you get a formidable partner dedicated to helping you walk your own path to Becoming Unabashedly SELF Centered.
Invest in yourself
The first step in the journey to Becoming Unabashedly SELF Centered is sensing your needs. If you’ve read this far, you know you need this.
Next comes intentional, aligned action: It’s time to invest in yourself. It’s time to start living life without apology!
6-Month Coaching Journey – $1,500
Includes 24 45-minute weekly coaching calls
Texting support in between sessions
Visioning call
Free inclusion in my Facebook group - Sanctuary for the SELF Centered
Automatic inclusion in my monthly themed circles ($54 value)
A custom set of story-beads, complete with hand-written write up ($75 value)
Payment Plan: 6 monthly payments of $260 (Total: $1,560)
3-Month Coaching Journey – $750
Includes 12 45-minute weekly coaching calls
Texting support in between sessions
Visioning call
Free inclusion in my Facebook group - Everyday Rituals with La Padre
Payment Plan: 3 monthly payments of $265 (Total: $795)
Got questions? I love questions. Let’s hear ‘em!
But first, can we chat for a second, just you and me? You know, sales page aside…
First, thanks for getting this far! I appreciate you reading all this!
Second, this is a picture of me at me favorite tree. She’s called The Queen Beech and she’s magnificent. I suspect you might be, too.
Third - I want your nervous system to be calm, and one of the ways I do that is by giving an overview, so here it is:
I'm a nerdy girl, at heart. I love fantasy, magic, and potential - especially yours.
I'm not so much a cheerleader - though I will celebrate the hell out of you - mirroring back the fabulosity I see so you can see it, too.
I see myself as a scaffold - that thing on the side of a building undergoing work. It provides safety and support to the ones doing the work.
That's what I offer you: a safe and supportive space to work week after week, building a life with you at it’s center - a life you’re excited about.
And I totally get that different brains work in different ways…
FAQ
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Fabulous! That’s where we’ll begin! You don’t have to have it all figured out—this work is about gently uncovering what’s true for you - learning to honor it, take aligned action, and create lasting change!
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It’s spiritual, yes—but not religious. I have a wide knowledge-base that stretches across many traditions and faiths, and I borrow from all of them while adhering to none. We’ll work with personalized ritual, rhythm, reflection, and intention - but always in a way that honors your beliefs and your boundaries (and hopefully gives you a different way of looking at things.)
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This isn’t about gathering more information. It’s about integrating what you already know through small (sacred) shifts, supportive practices, and the quiet rebellion of putting yourself at the center of your life. And there’s one other HUGE difference – you’re not alone. You get to co-create this with another (curious, kind-hearted) soul: ME, and if you’ve never experienced companionship like that, you’re in for a treat!
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You’ll feel it in how you speak to yourself. In how you make decisions. In the way your energy returns. You’ll notice you’re coming back to yourself with more ease—and that’s the shift that changes everything.
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No worries! While I speak from lived experience as a mom and caretaker, this work is for anyone who wants to stop abandoning themselves and start living with intention, self-trust, and grace.
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Let’s talk anyway. Maybe you’re not ready, or maybe you just don’t know what it feels like to be truly deeply supported as you make changes and move forward. A 30-minute Centering call will show you how that can feel. And if you’re really not ready? Then our time can at least give you some ideas on next best steps for you, with or without me. No pressure.
